some said, she won't help even though she can

One of my friend said  "she will talk very nice. She has lot of resources. She has acquaintances of influential people. But if you ask for a favor, she will give some reason to avoid. Don't trust her. Stay away" .

I think my friend misinterpreted her. First thing i should ask is why she should help one? Just because she has access to influential resources? No. I do not think that she can keep on pushing her acquaintances for some one else. When i looked at her closely. She is a person of challenges. Her academic record is good. I am sure that she can not manipulate that record continuously. She has the traits that will make any one whether with acquaintances or not will take to the top position in their work. Her concentration is undisturbed. Her schedule is clear. Her determination to maneuver through the day to day task is sure to take her to top the top rung of the ladder. She is damn good at work.

Surprisingly, the acquaintances she got are somethings that have happened by chance. She did not pick any of her associations by choice. They have happened by chance. Her relatives are in good social positions. Her parents are successful and well known doctors. Her family diaspora are in good positions in the world elite centers. None of this she chose. I do not think she ever had a chance to decide in which family to born.

One more thing i am sure of. The world top class institutions do not keep people because they know the people. Such institutions crumble to a heap of ash in no time. The institution will be a failure. When we say world class, it means world class in talent. So, what keeps an institute in the business of talent in top position? Talent alone. Nothing else.

I ask not only my friend but everyone to stop to that we can expect (except in dire circumstances) the people with associations should be helping. If we think "WHO WILL HELP IF NOT THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE ACCESS?", Let me tell my friend "with all the knowledge in the world that we are simply wrong".   

This is what Steve Jobs said : DEATH

Death is the most important tool. It helps to make the big choices in life. All external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. It helps you to remember  that you are going to die and this is the best way to know how to avoid the trap of thinking that you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. 


Even our close relatives don't remember us 6months after we die. We die like many. As shakespears said, the world is a stage and we are just players. It is ok if there are only few players but what if there are 6 billion players. In this context what Steve jobs did to the world becomes significantly important. He did something and it changed the pace of change. 


Now, the question is where do we stand? 

Success & Economy

The success and basic survival of each species, to be more precise, each individual of the species depends of economy. Economy of every action, every reaction. If the species is not economical in its energy, resources, reproduction and reactions, it will be deleted by the process of natural selection. so are we. 

love & living

Love. Love is great. One should have to fall in love to feel it. It is like the feeling that you get when you win something of great importance. Only you can feel it. You can say " I feel great" "I am on cloud 9". But no one else, but you can feel how its like to be on "cloud 9".

Is love sufficient to live together? No, not at all. Love is a great component. It is the mortar. It keeps things together. It gives the smooth finishing. It is the central pillar. But you need bricks. You can not build a house just with mortar. That's not how it works. One should know this. Once you know the truth, you will be less prejudiced. You will be more prepared.

love & like

Believe me when i say that we can like two people equally and may not be able to tell whom we like most but we can never ever love two people. If one says that he / she is in love with two, they just does not know that only one of it is true.